Managers Who Play Favorites


What a lucky cookie, the manager likes you the best!

There are people we are more attracted to than others.  This is true in our personal and professional life.  What should you do if you are in a management position and happen to like one employee more than the others?

This is tough, because our natural being is drawn to certain types of people, but as a person in a management position it is necessary to draw the line to prevent problems at work with other employees such as:

1. Strife between employees, because one is favored over the others.

2. Lack of motivation on the employees part to perform because they feel that it does not make a difference, because the manager has a favorite who will always out shine the others.

3. Increased turnover.

4. Breakdown in communication between other employees and management.

5. Lack of respect for the manager by employees.

There are pros and cons to being a favorite employee:

1. The manager will talk you up to the boss because you are favored.

2. Possible monetary increases could come your way before others.

3. Promotions may be offered to you above others.

4. If you upset the manager in any way, you may jeopardize your position.

5. More work may be requested of you, because the manager knows you will come through for them.

6. Being the favorite you have to keep the performance up in order to please your manager.  You have sold your soul.

7. You are alienated from the rest of your co-workers by your relationship with the manager.

Whether you are “the chosen” or “not chosen” you are in a difficult situation.  Although it appears that “the chosen” has some benefits, the difficulties far outweigh them.

Management staff need to remain neutral when it comes to relationships with their staff.  Sometimes it is hard to walk that line, but it is very important that it is done to prevent problems for the business owner and business itself.

As a manager you need to treat all staff members the same.  Take the time to address each of their needs equally and develop balanced relationships with each one separately.

“Leaders who play favoritism in the workplace have no chance to build a culture of trust.” ~ Robert Whipple

The Risks of Playing Favorites

Why Managers Play Favorites


3 thoughts on “Managers Who Play Favorites

  1. It’s vital to retain an objective perspective whenever you take on a management on leadership role. Without it too much personal emotion can creep in. Managers and leaders also need to have clear intentions about what their role is – which means first and foremost having to accept that they are playing a role! As such personal favouritism can be put to one side. Really interesting observations.

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