Facing and Fixing Fear

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Fear is a powerful emotion.  It can totally stop you from pursuing dreams, desires, or even from just riding a roller coaster.  For some, fear is part of their everyday life; it stifles them from functioning normally with daily activities.

One of the interesting things about fear is fear itself.  We allow it to control us and we do not even understand the foundation of where it is coming from.

In one of John Maxwell’s Leadership Wired newsletters (that you can sign up for on his Injoy website ) he discussed reasons why we fail to succeed, one of which was fear.  His advice on how to fix your fears was very helpful to me.  Here is what he wrote:

Fear

Fear has the ability to exaggerate itself and spread throughout our life.  When fear grips us, we are frozen and incapable of action. Worrisome thoughts fill our mind with distractions, and we are powerless to be productive.

How to “Fix Your Fears”

1. Discover the foundation of the fear.  Fears are more often based on feeling than facts.  To control fear, search for its underlying emotion. More often than not, you will find fear has no rational root.

2. Accept fear as the price of progress.  Whenever we venture into new territory, we are met with the fear of the unknown.  We must be willing to step outside of our comfort zone and face the fear of the unfamiliar.

3. Feed the right emotion, starve the wrong one.  Many times we cannot hope to avoid the emotion of fear.  Despite our best efforts to have courage, fear settles into the pit of our stomach like a rock.  We may never eliminate fear, but we can refuse to let it dominate.  If we act according to hope and optimism, eventually our action will transform our emotions.

Such excellent advice Dr. Maxwell gives on this topic.  “To accept fear as the price of progress” is a pretty interesting thought.  Looking at fear that way makes it easier to challenge and move through.

“Change is inevitable. Growth is optional.”
John C. Maxwell

09/15/14

12 thoughts on “Facing and Fixing Fear

  1. Nice post Tina. Certainly that is something difficult to get used to. But like most things – practice, practice, practice, is necessary. I find that looking at my fear when it arises, acknowledging that I’m ‘allowed’ to feel it, then questioning whether it is well founded or not is the first step to minimizing it. 🙂

    • That is excellent advice Stuart. I think you are so very right in saying that we need to allow ourselves to feel it, but then we need to step back and examine it. We can conquer ours fears although some are quite a challenge. Thank you for your input.

    • Hi Steve

      It certainly gave me a lot to chew on also. As you said many times we allow the fear to become so large and then when we actually face it we wonder why. Hopefully we learn for the next time :$

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