When coworker relationships are not good, maybe even are really bad, it not only affects the people who are directly involved, it affects the business as a whole.
A long time ago a good and wise friend of mine told me “you don’t have to like everyone that you work with, you just need to be able to work well together.”
I had to think about that for a while. Wouldn’t it be very hard to work well with someone if you did not like them?
According to my friend the answer was no. You were hired for a position to do a certain job. The job did not include that you would have “warm fuzzies” with all of your coworkers.
You need to be able to have an adult working relationship and that does not always mean you are buddy-buddy with your coworkers.
Many years ago I worked for a large corporation and I only established one really good, friendly relationship in the three years I was there. Not that the relationships with other coworkers were terrible, they were just work relationships, where we were kind, courteous, respectful and helpful to each other.
My friend Martin Webster, who I met through blogging, recently posted an article titled “A sure-fire way of building relationships at work.” The link below will take you directly to the article.
Martin talks about how successful partnerships at work can produce successful relationships. Martin has 100’s of posts on leadership in the workplace that are worth reading.
Remember…. we can have good working relationships without really having good personal relationships, we just need to remember why we are at work and appreciate what our coworkers also do at work.