ENLARGING: Adding value to teammates is invaluable.
“The purpose of life is not to win. The purpose of life is to grow and to share. When you come to look back on all that you have done in life you will get more satisfaction from the pleasure you have brought to other people’s lives than you will from the times that you outdid and defeated them.” – Rabbi Harold Kushner
Team members always appreciate and admire a player who is able to help them advance to the next level, someone who enlarges and empowers them to be successful.
Players who are enlargers have several things in common.
- They value their teammates.
- They value what their teammates value.
- They add value to their teammates.
- They make their teammates more valuable.
Key things you can do to become an enlarger:
- Believe in your teammates, they can tell if you do. People do better and work harder under the spirit of approval. People’s performance usually reflects the expectations of those they respect.
- Understand what your teammates value. Know who they are, it shows that you care and creates a strong connection between teammates.
- Adding value is really the essence of enlarging others. Find ways to help your teammates improve their abilities and attitude. Someone who is an enlarger looks for a teammate’s gifts, talents and abilities and how they may benefit the team as a whole.
- Enlargers work to make themselves better, not only because it benefits them personally, but also because it helps them help others. “You cannot give what you do not have.” If you want to increase the ability of a teammate, make yourself better.
- It takes a secure person to add value to others
If you want to be an enlarging team player do the following:
- Believe in others before they believe in you.
- Serve others before they serve you.
- Add value to others before they add value to you.
- Encourage and motivate others.
“People will always move toward anyone who increases them and move away from others who devalue them”